Everyone loves the chase and the not-knowing. But let's look at this pragmatically, it is not realistic. Honesty is real. You will never go wrong with being honest with someone from the get-go. It is not necessary to know everything; mystery is exciting. Sometimes you don't even know how you feel yourself, but honesty is important-withholding information from the other person is potentially hurtful. Be yourself. I had a good conversation with a friend and he said: talk to everyone, it leaves no room for judging when someone knows you. Along with that, don't be caught up in whether everyone likes you. not everyone is going to like you. For whatever reason. Some people are shallow and will find vacuous reasons to dislike you, and that is their problem, not yours. The only time you have to worry about your reputation is when you have given someone a legitimate reason not to like you, or in some way wronged them. Simply be your best self, be happy, be kind, be friendly, and don't treat other people in a way that you would not like to be treated yourself.
"Future somethings"... it is hard to look toward the future and all that it has to offer. Think back to a few years ago and how much the people, situations, and even you have changed. It is crazy to think what a couple of years will bring. It is exciting, scary and unknown. The tough part is making good decisions in the moment. The reason the crime rate is so high is because criminals are not deterred --they simply view a jail cell as something foreign until they land in one and the regret sets in. In the moment it seems normal to keep up with certain people and things and ways of life, but the future will change these perspectives. When you turn around in your current life, will you be okay with your "past somethings"? What you do and say makes you. Are you proud to be that person?
I am slightly embarassed to admit, but sometimes I think of my future life and whatever lucky guy gets stuck with me. I do not want to be filled with regret over "current nothings" from my past. If I am going to experience life and its lessons, I will ensure to myself that it is a worthwhile experience with a worthy enough person...not perfect, because as I stressed before, no one is. You should look at yourself and your situation and make sure that you are stepping up the ladder [rather than going below your standards], learning along the way, and growing as a person all the time.
Imagine what people would say at your funeral. What defined you?? What were your best attributes that you offered your family, friends, and the world? Because, just as you should know your weaknesses, you should also be aware of your personal strengths. Be aware of what makes you-you. What makes you come alive and tick? What inspires you? Go and do that. Be more of that person that people would describe if you were being remembered for your entire life. One day we will all be remembered. Make it worthwhile in your present life. Forget about your "past nothings" and focus on your "present somethings," all the while looking forward to those ''future somethings." Most importantly, remember that life isn't a guarantee, so the time to start is now. Every second is a new moment.
"Don’t ask yourself what the world needs,
ask yourself what makes you come alive.
And then go and do that.
Because what the world needs is people who are alive."
"There's more to living than being alive" -Anberlin
"Everyday I fight for all my future somethings.
A thousand little wars, I have to choose between." -Natasha Bedingfield
When it all boils down, at the end of the day ... it's what you do and say that makes you who you are. Makes you think about it, doesn't it. Sometimes all it takes is one voice.
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