Let's back track, shall we, to June 15, 2009. A slightly less mature me, writing a blog titled, "relationship status ______." I must say, I haven't read this blog in over a year, and for some reason, I was fixated on it tonight. The slightly less mature me had a pretty solid take on relationships back then. It's funny looking back on a blog written as a single woman, as a now taken woman. I can't reiterate my thoughts, as it was one of my longer masterpieces, but I was pleasantly surprised by something. I still feel exactly the same way. Here, I have decided to live my busy life parallel to someone else's busy life, and it's an amazing thing. But I know I don't need him. I wouldn't date him if he thought he needed me. We can both manage fine without each other. Before you think I'm a cold-hearted, impotent to love, consider the definition of the word "need." Need: require something because it is essential. I want him, yes, but need is a strong, naive word. Here is a link to my 2009 relationship blog. I also read a twitter post of a single friend that resonated with me: "We/us/our couples are the worst. "What are you doing tonight?" "Umm, we're not sure.." Umm, be your own person." I never want to be that person who has lost themselves without their extension of self--significant other.
http://kathrynjk.blogspot.com/2009/06/marital-status.html
